Rothblum ED. An overview of same-sex couples in relationships: a research area still at sea. In: Contemporary perspectives on lesbian, gay, and bisexual identities. New York: Springer; 2009. p. 113–39. Bhugra D, Rahman Q, Bhintade R. Sexual fantasy in gay men in India: a comparison with heterosexual men. Sex Relatsh Ther. 2006;21(02):197–207. https://doi.org/10.1080/14681990600554207. Of all Aphra Behn’s poems, To the Fair Clarinda experiments most openly with sexuality. In this poem lesbian desire is imbued with a passion equal to, if not surpassing, heterosexual desire. Behn makes use of the image of the hermaphroditic trope to describe the intensity of the union between the two lovers, so close that they become one person: Hirshfield S, Chiasson M, Wagmiller R, Remien R, Humberstone M, Scheinmann R, et al. Sexual dysfunction in an internet sample of U.S. men who have sex with men. J Sex Med. 2010;7:3104–14. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1743-6109.2009.01636.x.

A, Jurin T, Briken P. Is high sexual desire a facet of male hypersexuality? Results from an online study. J Sex Marital Ther. 2016;42(8):665–80. https://doi.org/10.1080/0092623X.2015.1113585.The first element that this dissertation identifies as occurring throughout women’s writing of the seventeenth century is feminized pastoral spaces. In Women, Space and Utopia, 1600-1800 Nicole Pohl quotes from Lucy Irigaray: Behn describes these carpe diem poems as ‘pointless Darts’ aimed at women and as, in their stupidity, they boast about their many loves, their victory will be short-lived while Sylvia will be wise: Perry NS, Nelson KM, Carey MP. Diversity of psychosocial syndemic indicators and associations with sexual behavior with male and female partners among early adolescent sexual minority males. LGBT health. 2019;6(8):386–92. https://doi.org/10.1089/lgbt.2019.0113. Perera PADMP, Abeygunasekera N, Gunewardhana CU, Kumarasinghe NH, Mohedeen SB. Potential sexual addiction (PSA) among men who have sex with men (MSM) who attended STD clinic, Kalubowila: a descriptive cross-sectional study. Sri Lanka J Sexual Health HIV Med. 2018;4:6–10. https://doi.org/10.4038/joshhm.v4i0.75.

Dawson SJ, Suschinsky KD, Lalumiere ML. Sexual fantasies and viewing times across the menstrual cycle: a diary study. Arch Sex Behav. 2012;41(1):173–83. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-012-9939-1. Be present with your partner and take your time.’ She adds, ‘Make sure you are clear on consent. And then explore and have fun!’ Communicating with your partner Inside the 2010 EMIS survey, almost 13,000 UK MSM described what constitute the best sexual life for them [ 55]. Most of men reported a desire for sex within committed relationships, followed by the need of emotionally and intimately connected sexual experiences. Many MSM expressed a desire for variety and a high frequency of sexual activities in their lives, and some men reported gaining the most sexual and emotional satisfaction out of casual sex contexts (e.g., hook-up, one-night stand) [ 56]. Other gay men reported a high desire for adventurous and exploratory sexual experience, free from social, psychological, and physical harm [ 55]. Interestingly, older men were less likely to idealize relationships or emotional connections than younger ones. Moreover, older men were more likely to ask for the sexual practices they wanted [ 55], as a result of a greater experience and consciousness about their own sexual desire and pleasure. Bivona JM, Critelli JW, Clark MJ. Women’s rape fantasies: an empirical evaluation of the major explanations. Arch Sex Behav. 2012;41(5):1107–19. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-012-9934-6.Remember, it's also really vital that you keep your sex toys clean, too. After using them, either wash them with warm water and fragrance-free soap or with a sex toy cleaner. This reduce the risk of bacteria spreading and the risk of transmitting STIs. Lube Aphra Behn and the Poetics of Lesbian Salience in the Seventeenth Century Jane White MA Dissertation University of Brighton 2015 Lacefield K, Negy C. Non-erotic cognitive distractions during sexual activity in sexual minority and heterosexual young adults. Arch Sex Behav. 2012;41(2):391–400. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-011-9792-7. Murray SH, Milhausen RR, Graham CA, Kuczynski L. A qualitative exploration of factors that affect sexual desire among men aged 30 to 65 in long-term relationships. J Sex Res. 2017;54(3):319–30. https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2016.1168352. Kurdek LA. Differences between partners from heterosexual, gay, and lesbian cohabiting couples. J Marriage Fam. 2006;68(2):509–28. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1741-3737.2006.00268.x.